Tonight (Friday) I went out !
Supposedly a lot of friends would gather. Practically, it didn’t go very well. Somehow, foreigners living in Tokyo tend to group. It’s true it’s not easy to have fun with Japanese guys, because of the obvious cultural gap, but, at the same time, associating with people just because they are Italian, isn’t a very good thing.
As a general rule, one should think “if I were in Italy, where I had an ample choice of Italian friends, would I still associate with X ?”. Not surprisingly, the answer is usually, no.
Somehow the fun of going out isn’t there anymore (or, for the time being). ..the usual places, the usual faces. I’m also generally disappointed on stupid some people can be, or weak, or both. But I’m not just a victim. I certainly do my part every time the mood is wrong. Social behaviors aren’t as random as one may think. I sometimes feel like people may rely on me to direct things. Untold but obvious situations where I fail.
I’m not a people’s person, I’m not a cool guy. I don’t have the charisma to drag people along. I’m don’t have the optimism in trying to animate the nightlife. I can be listening the most involving music in the most suggestive club, and start analyzing the graphics effects showing on some display.
To be charismatic one needs to think the right way. One has to avoid deep thoughts, be cool, look satisfied yet interested, act with the right amount determination at the right time. You can do something now or do it in 1 minute and have a completely different result.
I sometimes think about acting ! I woudln’t want to be working as an actor.. I would just like to be able to pretend to be in a certain way to be able to fix things around me. To bring out a good dose of fake charisma. Acting is no joke. If you can act (lie) you can get laid ! All one has to do is to keep a straight face to some woman, tell her all the bullshit she wants to hear, and use a little patience.
wooo I’m very sleepy. Time to go pretend to sleep 8)
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