First things first. It seems that I have a girlfriend now ! wowwww !!!
It’s weird, it’s rare. It took a good dose of luck but also something has to be related to the fact that I’ve been more selective on who I hang out with.
There once was a time when by the time I thought that a girl might have been interesting, she was already being banged by one or more of my friends !! It’s a wild wild world out there ..but it’s also filled with dumb girls !! Girls that fall in the arms of whomever grabs them first and cry about being mistreated. If you act like a piece of meat, don’t be too surprised if a butcher walks in !
What I really like in a girl is when she likes me for my personality. A person that can appreciate my sense of humor, not a boring stuck-up, but also not a plain airhead.
Still, it takes time to get used to a person. I’m very good at spotting defects and making a big deal of them in my head.. I suppose that that’s what keeps me fairly asocial: I don’t feel at ease with people I don’t know well enough and that gives them a negative signal.
Talking about relationships, I’ve built a pretty good idea on certain aspects of how Japanese girls view relationships.
Apparently, cheating isn’t a big of a deal ! I see people having fun with “optional” partners all the time here in Tokyo ! It’s mostly the men that get the fun, but I definitely can tell that women can have their good share of extra-curricular fun… I actually asked around, and it turns out that Japanese women (including young girls), accept the idea that men like to “have fun”. So, one can go out have fun, but ! must make sure that his girlfriend/wife doesn’t find out, and that she isn’t being neglected. A lover has to be strictly a lover, to be met on spare time.
I guess it makes sense. Sooner or later relationships have to mature. Morph from the instability of sexual tension into some sort of family. Family meaning a strong reliable bond designed to be there for the sake of everyone involved.
Still, it’s kind of sad that there is this sort of implicit compromise, I don’t like that. I’ll be a sad day when I screw around and have to make up a bunch of bullshit for my girlfriend. Then it’s not so much about hurting someone.. it’s about hurting your own pride, living with lies, I don’t want to do that !
Well, it’s 2AM fack ! Time to zzzz !!!!
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Posted by Davide Pasca in Society, Japan